50% of all pregnancies in the United States are unplanned. When trying to decide if adoption is best for your child, we recommend doing the following:
1. Write down your three options and how you feel about each of them.
Parenting: Taking your baby home with you and raising him or her in your home.
Adoption: A legal and permanent agreement between a mother and an adoptive family that allows them to raise and parent the child as if the child were born to them.
Abortion: A medical procedure that terminates the life of the baby growing inside of you.
Being able to write out your honest thoughts and opinions allows you to see where your heart is. Remember, those feelings and opinions might change — but it is a great way to be honest with yourself. It is also something that you can come back to if you are ever doubting your choice.
2. Find someone who will be honest with you.
Unfortunately, whichever way you go, not everyone will support your choice. Some people will even try to force their opinion on you. If you do not have someone who will be honest with you and talk about all of your options, we fully recommend you reach out to a pregnancy resource center or adoption agency near you. Organizations such as these are staffed with women who are trained to talk about and give you honest facts about all three of your options.
3. Find a doctor.
No matter what your choice is for this pregnancy, it is important for you to find a doctor and start getting care for you and your baby. Your body is going to be experiencing tremendous changes and you will need someone to ask questions and seek help from if need be. Some women avoid going to the doctor because they are afraid they can't afford it, but you can apply for pregnancy Medicaid to help with costs. If you need help applying for pregnancy Medicaid, a pregnancy center or adoption agency would be able to help you with that.
We know this can be overwhelming, but take time to breathe. We understand an unplanned pregnancy may feel like the end of the world. We are here to help. If you would like someone to talk with, please give us a call at 806-367-6755.